Shame and Self-Worth: Trauma and Self-Perception


These reflections explore the quiet, often hidden weight of shame, the belief that you’re not enough, not lovable, or somehow broken.
If you’ve spent years trying to prove your worth, silencing your needs, or carrying the voice of criticism inside you, you’re not alone.
Here you’ll find gentle, psychology-informed guidance on understanding toxic shame, softening self-judgment, and beginning the slow, courageous work of self-compassion.

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Trauma bonding is a psychological response to prolonged abuse, where victims form emotional attachments to their abusers. Learn how trauma bonds develop, why they happen, and how therapy can help break the cycle of abuse and foster healing.

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Healing shame takes patience and tenderness.
Each time you meet yourself with understanding instead of judgment, you begin to rewrite the story that says you’re unworthy.
If these reflections speak to you, remember, you don’t have to navigate this healing alone.
Professional, trauma-informed counselling can help you release old patterns, rebuild self-trust, and feel safe in your own skin again.

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