When a partner pulls away, it often comes from overwhelm, not lack of love. This guide helps you understand the pursue–withdraw cycle and learn how to give space, reconnect gently, and rebuild emotional safety.

When a partner shuts down, it can feel confusing and lonely. Often, this withdrawal comes from overwhelm or anxiety, not a lack of love. Learn how to understand the freeze response, offer space without losing connection, and rebuild emotional safety together.

When life feels like constant overdrive or shutdown, your body may have forgotten what safety feels like. This article explores how trauma shapes the nervous system and how “glimmers”, small cues of safety, can help you move out of survival mode. With gentle, practical strategies, learn how to recognise your states and find your way back to calm, connection, and balance.

Safety feels dangerous. Calm feels suspicious. Your nervous system keeps bracing for impact, even in healthy relationships. For Adult Children of Alcoholics, growing up in chaos shapes the body in profound ways that can echo long into adulthood.

Trauma-informed therapy recognises that healing starts with safety, not pressure. This approach helps you understand how trauma affects your mind and body, and supports recovery at your own pace. Learn what to expect from compassionate, trauma-informed counselling in Melbourne, online or in person.

Some losses never fully resolve, especially when love and pain were intertwined. This post explores complicated grief after abuse or estrangement and gentle ways to begin healing.

When you grew up without a model of safe, nurturing mothering, parenting can awaken both love and fear. This post explores how to mother without a map, grieving what you didn’t receive while learning to trust that your care is enough.

Being around family can bring up anxiety, old roles, and unexpected emotional reactions. Learn why your body responds this way and how to stay grounded and protected.

Estrangement is a hidden kind of grief; the person is alive, yet the relationship feels lost. This post explores why it hurts so deeply, why it’s often unseen, and how to move forward with compassion and hope.