Many people-pleasing patterns begin long before we have language, in early relationships where being “good” felt essential to staying connected.

Sometimes the “spark” we feel with someone isn’t chemistry at all; it’s our nervous system recognising old patterns of intensity, unpredictability, or instability. This article explores why chaos can feel magnetic, why healthy love can feel uncomfortable at first, and how to gently rewire trauma-driven attraction patterns.

Shame doesn’t just live in your thoughts; it shapes how you react, relate, and protect yourself. This blog explores the four common shame archetypes that develop after trauma or emotionally unsafe relationships.

Being around family can bring up anxiety, old roles, and unexpected emotional reactions. Learn why your body responds this way and how to stay grounded and protected.

Feeling flat, numb, or disconnected doesn’t mean you’re broken. When joy disappears, your nervous system may be in shutdown. This piece explores why emotional numbing happens after trauma and how your body can slowly learn to feel again.

Father’s Day can stir grief, anger, or longing when a father was absent, unsafe, or lost. This piece offers gentle ways to navigate triggers and honour your healing.

Why do the same stressors feel manageable one day and overwhelming the next? Your nervous system holds the answer. Explore the window of tolerance and gentle ways to return to safety and regulation.

Emotional and psychological abuse don’t leave bruises, but they change your body, mind, and sense of self. Learn why it’s so hard to name, how it rewires your nervous system, and what healing can look like.

When strength becomes armour, it hides exhaustion, loneliness, and the shame of never feeling allowed to need anyone. This post explores the hidden cost of always being the “strong one” and how to soften without losing yourself.