Sometimes the “spark” we feel with someone isn’t chemistry at all; it’s our nervous system recognising old patterns of intensity, unpredictability, or instability. This article explores why chaos can feel magnetic, why healthy love can feel uncomfortable at first, and how to gently rewire trauma-driven attraction patterns.

When your nervous system has adapted to chaos, healthy love can feel strangely unsafe. This post explores why safety feels uncomfortable and how healing rebuilds trust.

Healthy love can feel unsettling after abuse. When your nervous system has learned to associate chaos with connection, calm can feel foreign, even unsafe. This blog explores why kind, stable partners feel “boring” and how your body can relearn what real safety feels like.

If you keep finding yourself drawn to emotionally unavailable or chaotic partners, it may not be a lack of insight or self-worth. Often, it’s your nervous system repeating what it learned about love long ago. Understanding this pattern can be the first step toward gentler, healthier connection.

Mixed signals in dating are more than frustrating, they can echo old attachment wounds. This trauma-informed guide unpacks why breadcrumbing feels so powerful and how to recognise when it’s pulling you into a familiar cycle of hope, confusion, and self-doubt.

Coercive control doesn’t always look like violence.
It shows up as shrinking, self-doubt, isolation, and fear. This piece explores how subtle patterns erode your freedom and how your body often recognises what’s happening long before your mind can name it.