When you grew up without a model of safe, nurturing mothering, parenting can awaken both love and fear. This post explores how to mother without a map, grieving what you didn’t receive while learning to trust that your care is enough.

Estrangement is a hidden kind of grief; the person is alive, yet the relationship feels lost. This post explores why it hurts so deeply, why it’s often unseen, and how to move forward with compassion and hope.

What if healthy co-parenting isn’t possible? This post explores post-separation abuse, when parenting becomes a tool of control, and offers trauma-informed strategies to help you stay safe and protect your children.

Parentification is a hidden form of childhood role reversal that leaves lasting emotional wounds. This post explores how it happens, how it shapes adult relationships, and gentle ways to begin healing.

Writing to someone you’re estranged from can be both powerful and painful. Before reaching out, it can help to pause and reflect. These five steps are designed to support you in deciding if, when, and how to make contact in a way that honours your safety, your boundaries, and your emotional wellbeing.

After trauma, closeness can feel both comforting and overwhelming. This post explores why attachment becomes complicated and how your nervous system can relearn safety in relationships.

When your nervous system has adapted to chaos, healthy love can feel strangely unsafe. This post explores why safety feels uncomfortable and how healing rebuilds trust.

Betrayal can shatter your sense of safety and make you question everything you thought was real. It’s natural to move between grief, rage, numbness, and confusion. There’s no “right” way to heal from infidelity, only your way.

When one partner shuts down or withdraws, communication can feel impossible. This post explores stonewalling, why it happens, how it harms connection, and how to move toward safety and repair.